For some people, this comes totally naturally, but unfortunately for others, it can be the start of a nightmare.
As a general rule, avoid the following areas of conversation:
- Death or tragedy
- How much you earn
- Your plans for marriage and family life
Don’t reveal too much about yourself early on.
Never discuss you past dates or sexual conquests.
Stay clear of the old “chat up lines”. These don’t work on date. You will end up feeling stupid if you crack an old chat up line or pun that your date does not find funny at all.
One for the men here. Do NOT talk to her breasts. Women hate this and find it degrading and will soon run a mile.
You may find this difficult as you obviously find her attractive to be on the date in the first place, but keep those eyes well clear.
You want to try and sound confident during your date, but not cocky. Try not too talk about yourself too much and if you do, only when asked. You need to sound confident in yourself, but not overconfident !
You want to sound like you are comfortable holding a decent conversation in any situation.
Keep the conversation flowing nicely by using open-ended question. For example.
“If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?”
By asking why at the end, prompts for more than a one word answer and will inevitably lead to more questions from you. Be genuinely interested in the answers.
Try to be witty, funny and entertaining, but don’t act like a clown. Your date will soon disappear.
Never lie. If you are asked about a particular situation or subject, and you feel your date is not going to like answer, try to steer clear without looking like you have something to hide.
Wait until much later in your dating to start talking about romance. Don’t feel the need to tell her all the reasons why you would make such a great partner. Give it time. Too much, too soon, will have your date bolting for the door.
If you think that you are running out of ideas for conversation and you can't think of any more subjects to talk about, look at what your date is wearing. Is there an unusual watch, ring or piece of clothing? Ask them about it. This will get them talking about themselves, and you can keep asking more questions to keep things going nicely.